You love your partner and want to make your relationship work. You've tried to do all the right things but nothing seems to help. And it's really hard to talk to them about the relationship.
When you bring up any problems or tell them how you feel, they get defensive. They either clam up or an argument starts.
You're left feeling alone, frustrated, angry or upset. And probably judgmental of your partner. This is so common.
Most people want to make their relationship work but just don't know how. We're not taught about relationships at school and for many of us our parents didn't model helpful strategies. Even basic communication techniques, like active listening, are often misunderstood.
You probably know things could be better in your relationship. You want to feel loved and respected and connected with your partner. But you also know if something doesn't change, there's a real possibility your relationship will end.
I know what it's like. I've been married to my husband for over 25 years and I know it's so easy to fall into old patterns and habits and to forget how to genuinely connect with each other.
I also realise each relationship is unique, and each person has a life history they bring to the relationship, which affects the issues that arise.
But there are some basic steps everyone can take, no matter what the problems are in a relationship.
In my work as a teacher and facilitator of the personal growth and relationship system Voice Dialogue, I've worked with many people on their relationship and on my own relationship.
I wrote this little ebook to share the simplest steps that anyone can use to turn a relationship around.
The three techniques in this 'remedy' are the easiest way to kick-start a healing process in a relationship. They will revitalise your connection with your partner almost instantly.
All three techniques are time-honoured methods that work. They are sometimes suggested by relationship therapists - the problem is, many people don't know how to do them, and are often afraid to ask. I've read articles about the first technique in magazines but some of those articles miss the point about what active listening is and how it works (it's not just being silent while your partner talks).
These techniques are so simple you don't need any special skills or knowledge. And I explain them step-by-step.
A huge bonus is you don't even need to tell your partner you are doing anything.
So why not give them a try? You can't lose and chances are your relationship will benefit.
"Excellent read! Highly recommended. As a marriage and relationship counselor, I always enjoy reading books on the subjects of relationships and communication. This is a wonderful, easy-to-read and follow book that goes very fast. It basically teaches you skills of communication and psychology that are relationship 'musts'. I highly recommend this book!" Maggie Westbrook